I Just Want To Have A Conversation With My Kids
Do I really need to have a plan that focuses on good conversation starters to talk with my kids? My answer may surprise you.
Because I’ve been thinking lately about the conversations I have had with my children lately.
This brought me to the conclusion that I ask the same questions day after day.
So if you are expecting your children to give you more insight into their day and to open up, then you need to stop asking such generic questions.
Such as, How was your day?, What did you do? Did you have a good day?
I’m not saying there is anything wrong with these questions but you need to expect some generic kind of answers from your kids.
They get used to answering the same questions day after day that their answers become the same and automatic.
This is where I needed to realize to change up my questions, so I can get my kids to open up more. I want to be more involved in their day.
Believe it or not, kids are brimming with the need to talk with you, to share their emotions and interactions throughout the day.
Well, I should actually say when they are younger or elementary-age do they want to tell you everything.
Once they become tweens and teens then that’s where you need to be more creative with your questions.
The other obstacle standing in the way is that we have busy lives. We’re always connected to a device of some sort.
Take texting for an example, it has been proven that kids sometimes have issues with a verbal conversation because most of their interactions come from texting.
As parents we need to combat that with getting our children to open up and that another reason why we need to be armed with some good conversation starters.
So, I want to show you how to put this in action by giving you plenty of questions, ideas and where to have these conversations with your child.
Best Conversation Starters For Young Children
When do you think is the best time to have a conversation with your child? My answer is anytime.
I believe you take every opportunity you can to talk to your kids. Keep that door of communication open.
If you do this when they are young then they are used to you engaging them in conversation.
So here’s a list to help you start a conversation with your toddler, preschooler or early grade school kid.
- What TV character would you like to be?
- If you could be an animal what animal would you be?
- Would you rather be able to fly or be invisible?
- What one superpower would you want to have?
- Where would you go if you could travel anywhere in the world?
- If you could have one wish what would it be?
- What planet would you like to go to?
- If your favorite stuffed animal could talk what would it say?
- What job would you have if you can do anything?
- What holiday is your most favorite?
- If you could trade spots with one family member, who would it be?
- What do you think you are best at?
- If you could take away one rule momma or daddy has, what would it be?
- What name would you name yourself if you could change it?
- What chore do you like the least?
- Who is the most fun person you know?
- What is your most favorite food?
- Who is your best friend?
- How old is a Mommy?
- What does mommy do for a job?
Conversation Starters For Teens That Won’t Make There Eyes Roll
We all know that it can be hard to carry on a conversation with a teenager. Even the most respectful of teenagers don’t always want to engage with our parents in conversations.
I know that I want to keep that line of communication open with my teens. So here you will find some good conversation starters for teens that won’t have them sinking in their seats.
- What was your favorite part of the day?
- What is your most favorite movie?
- If you could make one change in this world, what would it be?
- Which one of your friends do you think I like the most?
- What occupation do you think is the hardest?
- If you could eat dinner with someone famous, who would it be?
- If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be?
- Have you done anything you regret and wish you could go back and change?
- What has made the biggest impact on your life so far?
- What do you think is your greatest strength?
- If you could have one superpower what would it be?
- What makes you afraid or scared?
- Do you have a favorite word?
- What do you want to be when you grow up?
- Do you have a funny joke?
- How would you describe yourself in one word?
- What would be your dream vacation?
- Do you think money can buy happiness?
- What do you think is the best invention ever made?
- Do you know how to combat a bully?
- What do you believe is your weakness?
- What do you consider is the most important trait you have?
- How can you help someone today?
- What hobby are you most interested in trying?
- If you have a bad habit, how are you going to break it?
- What one thing are you most grateful for?
- What have you learned so far that you find most valuable?
- If you could create one rule that everyone has to follow what would it be?
- What do you think would help the most if you are stressed?
- What one achievement you have done your most proud of?
- If you had nothing standing in your way mentally or physically what skill would you like to learn?
- What do you believe is the most important item to stockpile?
- What is your favorite meal?
- If you change places with someone who would it be? And Why?
- What is your favorite book?
- Who is your favorite storybook character?
- If you could star in a movie what would it be?
- What has been your most favorite toy?
- If you had all the money in the world what would you do?
- If you could go back in time what would you want to do over?
- Who would you want to be that is famous?
- Have you learned a valuable lesson from a mistake you made?
- If you have $50 dollars how would you use it?
- What would be your most favorite moment with your mom?
- What would be your most favorite moment with your dad?
- Are there any changes you would make about the house rules?
- If you could have any car what would it be?
- What was your least favorite part of your day?
- What would be the most perfect day?
- Do you have a favorite candy?
As you can see the questions are endless. This will provide so many opportunities to have a great conversation with your teen.
Whenever the opportunity comes up using one of these conversation starters to get your teenager chatting.
I think you will be surprised how much this will open up the communication gap between you and your child>
I have some other post on how you can talk with and relate to your tweens and teens.
I hope you found this post valuable and would love to hear from you.
Domestic Engineer Mom