Puberty In Boys/Is He Ready For The Talk?
Sorry Guys, This was not one of those subjects I look forward to discussing. You see we have 3 girls and 1 boy. Even teaching my girls about the Birds and the Bees made me nervous.
It’s not as though I felt like I wasn’t capable of doing it. I wanted to make sure I got the message across clearly without making anything confusing.
It’s not as though his dad couldn’t talk to him. He just works long hours. If he has more questions later, I want to be able to address them right then.
My thinking process was he might feel more comfortable talking to his later when he gets older. But I want to be able to establish that openness so he would be ok with talking with if he chooses to.
The next thing I would like to address is, where is your son at maturity wise? Does he go to public school, private school or is he homeschooled? Maturity level? What are his friends or peers like?
What kind of media exposure has he seen, like Internet, TV, books or magazines?
Believe it or not, this will have a huge bearing on what kind of talk you will have. You might not want to discuss or reveal everything at once.
These are some of the questions I had to ask myself before I had a talk with him. The biggest thing is that you don’t want him to feel awkward.
I think the biggest thing is you might want to find out if he may know some things already. Kids talk and are good about repeating what they hear. Even though a lot of times the information isn’t all that correct.
So am I lucky or unlucky? I consider myself lucky because my son is not as mature as his peers. Yes, he has special needs but mentally comprehends everything.
He has physical, and some learning disabilities but all those working parts are there. Maybe it’s because of his lack of exposure to other kids that I would consider “a little too knowledgeable.”
Don’t get me wrong there’s nothing wrong with that.
I homeschool, try to stay on top of what he watches, so he’s a little more immature in those ways. Honestly, I like this way. He’s our youngest and I want to be able to hold on to these moments as long as I can. They grow up so fast and time just seems to fly by.
How I Addressed Puberty In Boys With My Son
This is how I decided to approach the topic. I bought a couple of books and read through them to see what they discussed. The first one is called, “The Boy’s Body Book.” This book is a good stepping stone for discussing puberty in boys.
What I really liked about this particular book is it only touches the basics of puberty. Discussing what the boy’s body parts are and how they function. Addressing things like the penis and what happens when you have an erection.
Talks about the basics of puberty in boys, without the subjects of sex, girls, and about their body parts.
It also addressed changes in mood, personal hygiene, making good choices with friends. How to talk to your parents and teachers. I honestly can say it took the awkwardness out of discussing these subjects with him.
This is a really good book in my opinion and would recommend it for boys between the ages of 9 through 12.
So the next book I want to talk about is “Guy Stuff: The Body Book For Boys.” I picked this one because I love American Girl Books, and using them to teach my daughters with.
If you have read my other post on“How I Taught My Daughters About Personal Hygiene,” if not you can read it here. They really do know how to simplify things.
This book is a lot like the girl’s version of “The Care and Keeping of You” It is has a really good layout. Very easy for my son to understand. My son had Dyslexia, so I needed to read much of it to him.
This definitely took my nervousness of talking with him about puberty in boys. It teaches how we need to take care of our bodies, and why we need to shower and use deodorant.
The book also doesn’t go into depth about sex and girls. It actually teaches it in a way that I would call more textbook scientific way if that makes sense.
I actually might have liked how this subject was addressed in this particular book.
It also addresses mood changes and how your voice will go through changes. Changes in body size and love how they say its ok to cry and that it’s natural.
I think sometimes as parents we want to brush over our sons about crying. Not that it’s not appropriate, we just tend to want to make them tougher emotionally.
Boys Puberty Books I Recommend
I would definitely rate these 2 boys puberty books G rated maybe PG. It depends on how much exposure to these subjects your son has had already.
I felt very comfortable leaving both of these books for my son to look at.
I would highly recommend you to do this. After you have gone over the material that’s discussed you can answer questions and leave the books with him.
For me, it opened up several more conversations with him on growing up and becoming a responsible young man.
If you have a special needs son, I also would highly recommend these books.
Puberty in boys comes in very many stages, and these books address enough for boys to understand what their bodies are going to be going through. I would recommend these if your son is between the ages of 8-12.
Well, I hope this was helpful on how to talk about puberty in boys. I know for us it has opened up a secure connection for him to be able to discuss this with me and his dad.
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